And remember to take this rule with you: with whom people relate is not your problem. Never disrespect anyone for it and do not allow others around you to do so.
Know your body. Every bit of it, completely. Learn how it works. Learn where it hurts, where it tingles, where it tickles, where it relaxes, where it feels great. And learn about the girls’ bodies. What’s the same and what’s different. Know that girls grow up to have as many hairs as you do and that it is as natural in them as it is in you. Girls have smells, fluids, gases, just like you. More similarities than differences. In fact, get to know the differences in depth. Find out how your reproductive system works, and how their reproductive system works. Know that girls are cyclical, menstruate, understand how and why it happens and how fantastic it is. And know that above all that the body, any body, does not belong to you, it is inviolable and deserves absolute respect. You will always be taught that sex is a very important part of your life and that you should be concerned about it perhaps more than you would like. Respect yourself, your time, your processes
I know, nobody taught you how to love girls. Everywhere you hear only that they are boring, inferior, fragile. That they are futile, stupid, are only interested in superficial things. What you see on television is that they only serve to decorate the environment, being beautiful. That they are not meant to be admired as people, but as a beautiful object. That they are divided between those who will love and serve you and those who will reject you and make you suffer. That they should take care of you no matter what you do. I know it’s hard to love that image that you sell of how girls are. You learn that a woman is a curse, don’t you? They call you “little girl” when they want to lower you. Only none of this is true. Girls are people. And wonderful, intelligent people, full of fascinating particularities. And you must love them unconditionally. Not because of your beauty, or because you want your body, or because you are cared for, or to have someone to serve you. But because they are… people. Like you. Full of peculiarities. Defects and qualities. People who will be your friends, companions for work, fun, and adventures. Teaching you to hate women is a project you should refuse. Be wary of any proposal that puts women in an inferior position.
This is a world where girls are still not treated as well as boys are treated. Therefore, you must always be careful not to commit injustice or take away girls’ rights. You must be vigilant to avoid abuses and violence. There are wonderful women out there fighting every day to make this world a better place for girls to live. Don’t collaborate for a culture that forces them to meet a standard of physical appearance and behavior just to please you, and don’t be one more trying to crush their self-esteem by making them think they’re not good enough. I know the world will try to convince you that you are superior to girls, more special, intelligent and powerful. And which girls must obey, admire and serve him. That you will see girls competing for your attention and that will make you feel unique. But resist your privileges in any way you can because they are what make the world a very dangerous place for girls. Many boys grow up to be men who stalk, murder, rape, and do very badly for women. You don’t have to become part of that problem. You are a good boy. You can become a good man.
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